A Second Chance at Childhood

Follow our four tips for being the best grandparent you can be.

When children, with their gift for savoring the moment, team up with grandparents, with their wisdom and perspective on life, special things can happen. Here are four ways to make the most of your relationship with your grandchildren.

Give the gift of yourself. Children whose grandparents are active in their lives tend to be more secure and confident, have better people skills and relate better to older people. "Grandparents get to do the fun stuff," says Darrel Pierce, M.D., a family physician on the medical staff at Memorial Hospital. "They're in a unique position to strengthen family bonds as a role model, not a disciplinarian."

Support your children's parenting. It's important that you and your children agree on acceptable boundaries and discipline for your grandchildren. "Whatever rules mom and dad set, I try to follow as much as possible," says Sherry Moore of Sulphur Springs, whose 2-year-old grandson is nonetheless already figuring out how to get his way with his Nana and his Mimi.

Be a lifelong learner. Trips to places kids love-think aquariums, zoos and museums-can be learning experiences for everyone. It's also important to stay current on safety recommendations, such as car seat use, sleeping positions and foods to avoid, as you care for your grandchildren.

Stay close even if you live far away. Becoming computer literate can make it easier to stay in touch via e-mail, on-line chats and videoconferencing.

When you can, try to visit for special occasions such as graduations, religious ceremonies, recitals and holidays. The kids will appreciate having your undivided attention when you visit.

Whether you're near or far, your loving involvement in your grandchildren's lives is a gift they'll never forget.

By Stephanie Thurrott